I'm a sex worker, but I am also a human being with emotions, dreams, and a story of my own. I've chosen this path because I believe in providing a safe and consensual space where people can explore their desires, heal their wounds, find connection, explore kinks, and have sex.
One day, a man named "W" reached out to me. It was his first time meeting a sex worker, and I screened him thoroughly. When he arrived he was nervous and almost shaking. My heart goes out to those that come in frightened, so I did all I could to put him at ease. We talked for a bit, and as we became more comfortable, I started asking him flirty questions. One of my questions was “Ever had any threesomes?”, he answered, “No, I haven’t ever done anything before.” He was 30 plus and had not ever been sexually intimate, willingly, with anyone. He opened up about his past, sharing that he had painful experiences of sexual abuse. My heart ached for him as he explained how hard it was for him to even reach out to me, and I knew he needed to feel safe above all on his first consensual sexual encounter.
I wanted "W" to feel seen, heard, and respected. I went over some clear boundaries and mutual consent, with my goal being his emotional well-being and by doing this I created an environment where he could feel secure. Throughout our time together, I checked in with "W" visually and verbally, ensuring he was comfortable and in control. I recognized the significance of this moment for him, and I wanted him to feel empowered and supported.
I saw a transformation in "W". Tears streamed down his face. In that moment, seeing him being vulnerable, I again understood the profound impact my work could have on someone's life. My work isn’t just about the physical act; at times it is about providing a safe haven for individuals to reclaim their autonomy, to heal old wounds, and to embrace their desires without shame. I know others see the work differently, but that's how I go about my work. You do you, boo.
For me, being a sex worker goes beyond the stereotypes and stigmas society often attaches to my profession. It's about being a compassionate companion, a listener, and a facilitator of self-discovery. It's about recognizing that clients are human beings with complex stories and diverse needs. I have been doing this for close to 20 years now, and I have learned much more than my college degree ever taught me.
I know that my chosen path challenges societal norms and pushes boundaries, but I am proud of the work I do. I am proud of the connections I help forge, the vulnerabilities I nurture, and the understanding I promote.Clients are not faceless strangers; they are individuals seeking connection, intimacy, or simply a safe space to explore their desires.
So, as I continue on this journey, I strive to break down the misconceptions surrounding sex work. I hope to foster empathy and understanding, to remind the world that clients and sex workers alike are deserving of respect, kindness, and acknowledgement of their shared humanity.
And through it all, I carry the stories of those like "W", reminding me that my work has meaningful impacts on others. I am honored to be a part of each individual's healing process, their pursuit of happiness, and their search for connection. Whether that is just a fun-filled hour, or safely exploring kinks, I am here for it all.